November 2011
24 posts
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Anonymous: I just ended things with a guy, but we are trying to remain friends. I’ve been dealing with severe loneliness the past couple weeks, even though I have amazing friends and people I barely even know have reached out to me. But here is my question, because I feel like I had a sort of ephiphany tonight:
Do you think that God is holding off on blessing my life with a male companion...
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Anonymous: My college ministry leader said that once a woman marries, she must submit to her husband because her husband takes on the burden of her salvation and when the day of judgement comes, her husband will be the one to answer to God for for not only his sins but his wife’s as well. I was wondering what your opinion on this was? (I think this sounds wrong.)
Lauren: Well, you would be...
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We Can't Go Home Again by Max Dubinsky →
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Lessons From A Recovering Porn Addict →
“I felt I was the lone woman on the planet that viewed pornography. At my church they talk often to the men about the harmful effects and evils of pornography, but never to the women…which made me feel even more of a deviant. I began to have this skewed view that it was “normal” for men, but not for women. While it is certainly more prevalent with men, studies show 9 in 10 boys and 1 in 3...
Anonymous asked: Hi Lauren! I don't want to start a debate with you, but I was wondering where you learned birth control pills don't cause abortions? I have read that though the primary purpose of birth control is indeed to prevent conception, if conception does take place, the BC prevents the embryo from attaching to the lining of the uterus, thus causing an abortion. What is your opinion on this?...
markmuldez asked: Hey, I just gotta say, your blog is prolly by far the most solid female blogs i've seen so far! So i'm following you! Keep being a light here sister!
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Anonymous: I want to know if it is wrong as a Christian woman to masturbate. It’s so hard to decipher what Scripture might say, so I figured I’d get the opinion from an honest, respected thinker. Let me know your thoughts on the issue. Thanks!
Lauren: It’s really important to remember with topics like this that it’s not about right and wrong, or about the rules that the Bible lays out for...
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Anonymous: Can you offer a Christian perspective on anal sex? OK for married couples? or is all sodomy wrong?
Lauren: I believe that the marriage bed is undefiled, meaning your sexual intimacy/activities with your husband or wife are between you, them, and God alone. I also believe that just because something is permissible does not mean it is beneficial. The Bible doesn’t address anal sex,...
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Anonymous: What do you think is a good book to read in the Bible that really draws attention to this type of struggle women have? (loneliness)
Lauren: It’s really interesting to me that God rarely addresses “topics” like loneliness, depression, etc. Instead, he addresses the holes in our hearts and fills them with Himself. When you seek God fully, he will naturally fill those...
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Anonymous: Where do we draw the line between praising and appreciating our men for their good behavior and expecting it? Recently I was out in public and snapped at my boyfriend, asking him to “shut it already.” This isn’t normal behavior for us, but at the end of the day I thought, “What a sweetie, he didn’t make a scene in public even after I was a jerk.” So I...
Anonymous asked: I follow you on Twitter, and saw that you mentioned birth control pills. It made me wonder about the following: Is birth control pills just a 'safer & gentler' way of of abortion? It sounds harsh, I know. But I've been wondering whether the birth control action happens BEFORE or AFTER conception... I think it also depends on what kind of birth control pills one uses. Another...
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Anonymous: Hey Lauren, would love to know your recommendation of books that deal with knowing your value, worth and not comparing yourself to other women… like how to get over doing that? Its so destructive and I really want to change it! :)
Lauren: Ooo. I really love Captivating by Staci Eldredge. Definitely a book every single woman should read. I struggled with this for an incredibly...
Anonymous: You’re not a celebrity. You traded your potential as a talented and competent woman to travel the world with a broke, homeless man you met on the internet. The advice you give on your blogs is solely based on the multitude of mistakes you’ve made in your life and no credentials whatsoever. You have no useful college degree and your work is generic and mediocre at best. You...
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ShepherdsDaughter: One of the young girls I disciple asked me a question, and I’m not so sure how to answer because I don’t think I’ve handled this well for myself: “If a guy is flirting with me with sexual conversation, how do I get out of it without being mean?” My suggestion was to simply say no, but with girls her age, I guess it isn’t that simple. And I don’t think that changing the topic...
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A Good Woman's Guide To The 21st Century →
sovi-ovi asked: I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend _and_ lover, but he's not mine. I've had a series of relationships in which I've slept with the guy I was dating at the time, including one I lived with. Now, after 15 months dating and two years sleeping together, my boyfriend wants to significantly cut back on having sex. This is hard for me, and it doesn't help that I'm more...
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Anonymous: I’ve definitely been learning a lot about what it means to be a good woman from your blog. It’s something I’m striving for. What makes a good man, though? What should men of our generation be striving for?
Lauren: Honestly? Men should be striving towards a lot of the same things women should be striving towards: To be like Christ. To deal out grace, compassion and...
Anonymous: I’m a 21 yr old girl. Grew up in a pentecostal church. Quite strict. I still attend, I’m an “active” member. I teach sunday school and my boyfriend is the ministers son. I’ve been dating him since high school, he’s very involved in church, he sings and is a musician. My problem is, I struggle figuring out if I really want to spend my life in church. I...
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Anonymous: How do you approach dating someone when you want to date monogamously, but the guy wants to feel like he’s not cheating if he wants to see someone else? We’ve been going out for a month and a half, have been physically intimate, and he’s wrapping up a divorce and doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. I don’t know if I can see a future with him yet...
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Anonymous: Could you help recommend some books to me? My fiance and I are looking for a good book to go through together in preparation for marriage but are pretty turned off by the standard christian books that seem to all offer the same narrative of submissive wife and leader husband. Do you have any advice? Any books you have read any would recommend or just authors/places to check out?
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“Lust is the desire for the body. Love is the desire for their soul.”
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“Male porn addict: I am essentially as experienced as a 12 year old, and I am 22....”
– Comments Section of Porn Zombies
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“I wish that 10 years ago someone had educated me on pornography. What it is,...”
– Women Are Watching Porn Too
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What I Wish I'd Known Before Watching Porn →
